Today is Graham’s birthday.
I went to bed last night feeling like I live in a country I no longer recognize. I was sad. I was shocked. My fellow Americans have elected as our leader a man who clearly views women as inferior, as objects, as fun little toys meant for his amusement. To me, and to many American women, and humanity as a whole, his election is a frightening reminder of the ugliness and hate that festers in this great and proud nation. He is a dangerous man. He will be a scary leader. And I am terrified.
As the gravity of this reality hit me last night, Graham wrapped his arms around me and reminded me that he loves me, and that I am not alone. This morning, he made the coffee and sat with me as I stared at the wall. Today, he will check in on me whenever he gets the chance, and he will send me interesting articles to read and funny pictures to lift my spirits. Tonight, he will head to the grocery store so that I can spend the day with my thoughts and my blank pages and write until I feel whole again.
He will spend this day, his birthday, making me feel loved. That is the kind of man he is. He is kind and thoughtful, he is patient and respectful, he is empathetic and full of love and all the other good stuff that makes us human.
Graham is a good man. I’ve been fortunate to have many good men in my life, and he is the best of them. I am encouraged by the strength of his character and his tireless drive to do right. I am heartened by his genuine smile and lifted up every day by his gentle spirit. The depth of his heart and all the love that it can hold inspires me and gives me hope for a better, brighter, happier, kinder future. Because he is a good man, I know that my country is not lost. It is there, in the steadiness of his temperament, the power of his convictions, and the goodness in all that he is and all that he will become.
This beautiful soul is my guiding star, and today is his day. I am proud of Graham, proud to be his wife, and proud to call him my husband. Happy birthday, wonderful man! I love you.