Beginnings and Beginnings and Beginnings

March has always felt like the time for new beginnings to me. More than the new year, certainly more than the doldrums of cold and dark January, March feels like a month for exciting changes and fresh starts.

I’m thinking about this now for a couple of reasons. The first – Rebecca over at Fake Flamenco asked for my ideas about a poetry challenge theme for this month. I don’t know if she’ll choose my suggestion, but the question got me pondering nonetheless, and here I am. The second – Y’all, am I ever ready to start writing some fiction again. So, so ready.

I’ve mentioned several times over the course of the last couple of years that I miss writing. It’s been hard to find the time to really sit down and work. Even now, as I’m typing this, Lucy is right beside me, chomping on some blueberries and watching me type. But I want to commit to finding a routine, to making a way forward, and to getting words down on paper once more. I’m not afraid of a challenge.

And in that spirit, I thought it would be fun to share some of the…let’s just call them starts…I’ve gotten on some new stories. These have come together in pieces since Lucy came, and I’m not sure where to take any of them. But I feel like there’s some good stuff here, and I’m excited to see where it might go.

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Here’s a haunted house story I started in October:

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“It’s like something out of a storybook,” said Gracie.

My sister says the same thing about orange tabby cats and latte art, but in this case, she was right. The house on the bluff was a dream. It was more than we could have hoped for. And there’s a lot you’ll ignore, when your family needs a new start. The Boatswain’s House sat quiet and empty for almost five years. Everyone thought it spent that time just crumbling. It didn’t crumble. It waited. It waited, as it turns out, for us.

There were three of us, when we moved in. Soon it would be four. My mother, my sister Gracie, and me. My youngest sister, Haley, was still in my mother’s belly. I was jealous of her, to tell the truth, warm and safe and protected in there, even before the house. At seventeen, I had two jobs, school, Gracie, and college applications to take care of. My mother, bless her, had her two jobs – waiting tables in a diner at night and managing a lawyer’s office during the day – and a home to make for us. And my dad’s mess. My father was a good man, once. Before the injury, and then the pills, and then the online gambling. I remember him before, all hugs and heart and calloused, loving hands. I haven’t seen him in years. We don’t know where he is. He probably doesn’t, really, either.

He left us in the one-bedroom apartment we had to rent because he didn’t pay our mortgage. He left, and my mother bloodied her fingers every day for months while Haley grew inside her, trying to pick up the broken pieces of the life he’d promised all of us. He meant it, when he said it, and for a long time, he delivered on it, too. She worked all the time, and when she wasn’t working, she was cooking, and cleaning, and singing and dancing and playing with Gracie and smiling even though she wanted to scream loud enough for the devil himself to hear her and answer. 

All of it changed with the house.

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And here’s something about a work retreat. (I’ve never been on a work retreat, but I hear they’re a nightmare. Seemed like good fodder for a story.):

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There’s one thing you should know about me, before I tell you this story: I am not an outdoors person. I like air conditioning, and clean bedding, and functioning toilets, and please, for the love of God, running water. But a requirement is a requirement, and so, just like all the other poor schmucks at the office, away to Camp North Star I went. If not exactly against my will, at least against my better judgment. But when the boss says “Mandatory,” well, money’s money, you know? Need it to live.

The brochure advertised four nights and five days in “scenic woodlands.” Great teambuilding activities, like “our challenging ropes course!” Gag. “Rustic cabins.” All the usual crap. And as we loaded onto the bus – a bright yellow school bus, of all things – I could tell that not many of us were looking forward to the “adventure in the mountains” ahead. Gary from accounting actually looked like he might throw up, and Susanna from HR stood there counting her hand sanitizer bottles. Bob from customer support was hosing himself down in Deet.

“God, I hope this stuff actually works,” he said, desperately, as I walked past.

“Don’t look at me,” I told him, my hands in the air, a gesture of defeat. “I’m just planning to let the bugs win.”

I went to camp once before, when I was in middle school, at the insistence of my exhausted mother.

“You’ll love it,” she’d said.

A sprained ankle, a stolen backpack, sun poisoning, and about a thousand mosquito bites had proven that mother really doesn’t always know best.

But I slapped a stupid smile on my face, and climbed aboard the big cheese, determined to prove once and for all that I was, in fact, an enthusiastic team player, and totally worthy of that promotion I’d spent the last six months chasing.  

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And here’s something about a mysterious book:

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The book waited, as books do. Books are patient things, and this one was no exception, at least in that regard. And so, in a gloomy shop on the corner of Washington and Chestnut, it sat gathering dust, minding its own business, and waiting for the day someone would notice it, pick it up, and take it home. And, best of all, read it. It had to be just the right person, and the book knew that person would come. One day. Until then, it waited.

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And here’s something about a ring. What about a ring? I’m still not sure:

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Just a ring in a shop, that’s all it looked like. Squeezed in among others, behind a shabby glass case, you’d barely have noticed it. But I did. I wish I hadn’t, but we can’t go back in time.

“Pretty one, that,” said the frail old man behind the counter. “Came in just a few weeks ago, part of an estate out in the country.”

It was pretty. Even crammed in with all the other, more flashy rings, this one stood out. A simple, thin gold band, and a bright, rainbow-flecked fire opal, cut in an oval. Understated, I remember thinking. Elegant.

“Do you know how old it might be? Or who might have made it?”

“I’m afraid I don’t,” he answered, “but I’ll tell you what. I can give you five off the price, if you’ll take it today.”

I walked out of the shop with a lighter wallet in my purse and a new ring on my hand.

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And here are just a couple of good opening lines from two different potential stories. I’d like to do something with these one day:

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“There’s a saying in my family. I don’t know where it came from, or how long we’ve been saying it, but I’ve heard it every day, ever since I can remember. We say: There is no cure for dreaming.”

“The first time I heard it, I confess, I didn’t believe it. But lies are like that. They have a way of winding themselves into your soul, of spreading and growing and devouring, like kudzu vines on the trees, like wildfires in summer.”

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So, what shall I do with these?

I love writing. I love creating. I know that a lot of your love it, too, and that’s why we’re here: To make, and to share, and to build a community of people who support each other. I’d love to know your thoughts! Tell me which one you think I should return to first, which one’s your favorite, or which one you just don’t think you’d read.

And maybe, someday soon, I’ll post a new story.

Until then, keep dreaming and creating, and I will, too!

Diabolical (A Poem)

What is evil, really?
A malicious act of agency, but also
an abject lack of empathy –
to accept the inhuman with complacency,
to offer hate and meanness gleefully,
to look upon the farcical face of cruelty and answer back:
“But the economy!”
History has a knack for becoming judge and jury.
When its eyes turn to you, what will your children’s children’s children see?

Lucy in the Snow

I think it’s safe to say – and also absolutely delightful – that Lucy has inherited my love of winter and snow.

We didn’t get quite the snowfall that we anticipated, which is honestly sort of a relief, but we got enough that Lucy could go out and play. And she loved it.

She did NOT want to come in. But sometimes we have to do things we don’t want to do so that we don’t freeze our tiny, adorable fingers off, am I right?

It’s still cold here, but the snow’s all melted and I don’t expect we’ll see more this season, so I’m happy Lucy got to experience it this year. Now, as far as I’m concerned, onward to spring and brighter days ahead!

A Little Monday Music

Y’all, my heart.

I love seeing Lucy play music with her GrandDonnie.

With everything going on, moments like this, they’re just so sweet and wonderful to share. And I think it’s safe to say, this kid will definitely be a musician. It’s going to be so fun helping her find her instrument and watching her learn. 😊

An Accutane Update: I Don’t Love It

Well, I’m not really sure where to go from here.

The Accutane works. My face was clear all throughout the holidays and it felt like I got a little bit of my life back, and y’all, when I say that was amazing. Just, wow.

But the side effects. Oh my God, the side effects.

So, let me preface by saying that everyone is different, and everyone reacts to medicines differently, and I don’t want to scare anyone away from a treatment that might work very well for them. But I want to share my experience, just in case anyone needs validation, or has questions, or is just curious. This is definitely not the update I wanted to give.

Let’s start here. My face cleared up! Yay! My skin also dried out everywhere. And I mean everywhere. Every mucus membrane, and nothing I did to help with that side effect (lotion, an Omega-3 supplement, changing soaps and showering habits) actually helped at all. The dryness, though, I could handle. It was expected and wasn’t so bad. Well, not on my face at least. It was less than tolerable in other places.

Which brings me to my eyes. About two months into the treatment, after my dermatologist and I had agreed to up my dose (as is standard), my eyelids just went insane. None of my glands wanted to work. Everything just stopped up, and my eyes got all red and gross and watery, and my eyelids got really inflamed and swollen, and my lashes were all full of flakes and tear residue. And long story short, after a weekend visit to the eye doctor, I can confirm I now have ocular rosacea as well. Because Type 1 and Type 2 were not enough. Sigh. One steroid drop prescription and treatment plan later, and I’m doing a little better. But my eyes still aren’t normal, and I’m real tired, y’all, real tired of wearing my glasses instead of my contacts. Lucy is happy, though, and tries to pull them off of my face a few times a day.

Even the eyes, though, I think I could handle. Maybe. But I experienced some weird mental symptoms, too. My dermatologist did not think they were Accutane-related, but they coincided with the bump in my dose. My anxiety skyrocketed, and I started to have really strange, not-me thoughts about the hopelessness of life. I never think that way. I love life.

And I love my hair, which is now really thin at my hairline. I just don’t know if it’s worth it to lose my hair to clear my face, you know? They say that it’s temporary, but it’s very visible, and it makes me very uncomfortable.

I’m just generally uncomfortable these days, actually. My joints got super achy, and I’m also having some abdominal pain and really awkward, painful GI issues. Again, can’t say if they’re caused by the Accutane, but things are certainly not the same in my gut since I started the medicine.

About a month ago, my dermatologist recommended that I knock my dose back down. I tried that. No changes. So, I tried taking the pill only every other day. I still wasn’t happy about the side effects. So, I’ve just stopped the medication for now. Unfortunately, my face has started to break out again, especially around my mouth, which makes me feel so pretty. But I’m just not certain I want to continue. I’ve got an appointment at the end of the month to check in, and I plan to discuss all of this. We’ll see where we go from there.

I’ve suspected for a long time that there’s an underlying cause to this rosacea – hormones, maybe, or something to do with my gut, or maybe even my thyroid. Maybe that will be my next step. But for now, I’ll just be here, obsessively applying lotion and hoping that my stomach settles down and I can wear my contacts again one day.

Some Words – And My Word of the Year – for 2026

I wonder how many times this year I will be called upon to grieve.

How many times will I grieve for the world, for senseless violence and gleeful cruelty and hatred turned into policy? And how many for my corner of it?

My uncle died yesterday after a short battle with aggressive cancer. He was a good man, though like so many others he wasn’t at his best all the time. I remember a year when he pretended to pour beer on my birthday cake. I also remember singing with him, seeing him smile and laugh and just be there with our family at my parents’ basement karaoke bar, which a family friend lovingly titled “Club Doozie’s.”

That family friend passed away in the fall, after a long battle with aggressive cancer.

Graham lost his aunt in the summer. Her daughter, sick in the end-stages of aggressive cancer, made it to the funeral, and died only a few days later.

And the big one. My dad.

My dad has cancer. I don’t know that he’d like me putting it out there, and to be fair it isn’t my news or my diagnosis to share. But he is mine. And my fear and my grief belong to me, too. He’s never even broken a bone, despite years of sports and motorcycles. His prognosis is good, as far as we know, but to see him struggling with this, to know that cancer might take him from me, feels like something out of a story. Not something out of my own life.

It’s the shock, I think, always. Even if you see it coming. It’s the shock, that moment of “this can’t be happening,” that drags you into the dark.

Right now, we’re living through a regime that wants us shocked. They want us so wrapped up in the news cycle, in atrocities and trauma and broken laws, that we don’t have the space for any other reaction. But grief is a reaction.

Grief is resistance.

To grieve in the face of such abject and inhuman malice, to be soft, to feel pain, that is resistance. To be sad when they want you to be scared, and to feel tears when they want you to feel your heart beat fast in your chest, that is resistance.

And grief is strength. To look sadness and tragedy in the eye and keep going, to feel deeply even when it hurts, to allow yourself that time and space and know that you have to feel it to get through it, that is strength.

This is not the post I’d intended to write today. Or, yesterday, as it were, but the day got away from me. I was going to write about my word of the year for 2026. It’s “LISTEN,” by the way.  

But I guess it still works, doesn’t it? I’m up at 4:00 a.m. with a cold and a sinus infection, unable to sleep, taking this quiet time to write, listening to what my brain and my soul need – to get this down on paper, to get it out of my head. I’m listening to my grief, and letting it take its course. When I feel a little better, I’ll listen to my heart, and allow it to lead me this year – to the people I love, to the life I’m building, to the quiet, fallow places that help you grow.

And on that journey, I’ll keep listening to my grief, too. I’ll listen, and I’ll let it open me up like a wound and I’ll bleed out sadness and love, and I’ll share that love with everyone I can.

Because what else can any of us do, in a time like this?

Women (A Poem)

Here’s good:
There is something so surreal and so absolutely,
achingly,
magically,
transcendently beautiful
about watching my mama rock
her granddaughter – my daughter – to sleep.
My heart can barely hold it.
And I know:
It’s not the wars that will keep us safe,
that will keep us going.
It’s the women.